A REAL FRIEND.......

A real friend is very hard to find....difficult to leave and impossible to forget.t.

 

 

True friendships are something I hold dear to my heart. A true friend can look at you and know what to say, when you need a hug, and when to make you laugh. They just know.  A true friend knows when they should back off and give you some time- but doesn't because they know you need them, you just don't know it.  A true friend will be honest-always-even when you don't want to hear it. They will be waiting to hold you when you cry, pick you up when you fall.  True friends are not people you find often, and once you do find one, they are hard to replace. True friends never take each other for granted and they never say things that are not from the heart. Anyone that truly knows me, knows how much I value the trueness of the words  "I LOVE YOU", I also value the word "FRIEND"  I never use either lightly.

 

 

A friend is one of the nicest things you can have, and one of the best things  you can be. So many of us confuse True friendships with acquantances.  Yet good friends care for each other, close friends understand each other, but TRUE FRIENDS stay forever...beyond words, beyond distance, beyond time.  A true friend doesnt care  if you are broke, what you weigh, if your house is a mess, what you drive or about your past.  What's really cool is your conversations pick up where they left off, even if its been months or years. They love you for who you are.

 

 

In 2008, i learned a lot about friends.  I learned that a friend is someone I trust to be with me when I am at my weakest and most vulnerable.  and they are people who, no matter how painful it is to see, are willing to be with me when I am helpless and weak.  If I sould trust my life with you, and vice versa, we are friends. It's  not about whether you are trustworthy, or whether you are friendly, it's the actual act of trust that is the basis of friendship

 

I kinda see friendship as not a state of mind, it's an act.  It's something you do, it's not about whether you're good or not, it's not a reflection of you, it's a balanced relationship between two people.  Yet, it doesn't mean it's always balanced at every moment.  Sometimes you "need a friend" and other times it's the other way.  It's a trust thats returned

 

 

It is amazing to me.... i am honored and grateful for the people and true friends and family that are in my life.  Being that I was born in manteca, went from kindergarden to Senior year here, and work in a large dental office, it never fails i come across people/friends daily.  Talk about kindergarden...some of my very first classmates and friends i met 45 years ago.  Take Brenda for instance...our friendship began at age 5 years and 45 years later still great friends, we work together also, and I am so blessed to have her in my life, God knew what He was doing!  Then there is Cindi... another childhood and current friend whom I am honored to call "friend".  Though we both have busy lifes, work, family and social functions, we still find time to catch up at least once a year!  A true friend she is,  and i know no matter what, nothing will pull us apart.  we have been through weddings, babies, divorces, and death. No doubt, a lifetime friend/  It's crazy how we can have deep, deep talks, religion, politics, (which I know nothing about!), love and death, you name it. Lori Holifield, amazing the things we've been thru together

 

Friendship is a never ending circle... anyone who's been through trying times in their life, knows that some people will be there for you, some won't.  Some were tthere before, some werent.  some will be there after the trouble passes, some won't ......

 

Childhood friends, high school friends, adult friends, work friends, church friends, friends of

friends......each friend has a place in your life, maybe just for a short time, maybe for life. 

 

Once i get started with names and memories of my preciosu friends, the list will be ever so long...yet i cant help but to mention a few!  Lisa Brown, such a role model and inspiration to me, Angela Cardoza, such a happy soul,  lesley Henry, hope, cheryl, Ilah turner, terry wilson, barbara betti, kimmie whitcotton, ann souza, Missouri friends, david and paula rutter, marilyn, ron and jody hepwoth,  theres my friends in recovery, david N, Holland, Jana, , mario, karen, gabriel, anita, melia,Will, .  There are those that you learn so much from, look up to and so easy to share your life with,  there's Lou and tina ( my only 2 sponsors)  john, annie, and of coarse mike, renee, bea, greg and mona, and 2 of my biggest fans, my mom and daddy.

I asked myself... if you can make one statement about true friends what would it be?  As i thought about it, it was very simple..not quite as simple as 1234."Sometimes you say it best when you say nothing at all... "  Just knowing they are there is soul soothing and  reassuring...


Because of His AMAZING GRACE....